Marriage System

Arrange marriage:

As far as my study of arranged marriages, I have seen people who decides whom to get married are mostly parents(who thinks that whatever they are doing is best for their child even though they don’t know the nature of the girl/boy they are selecting) and relatives( who have nothing to do with girl/boy, they just wanted to create their importance by showcasing their huge network they have created in their life time, indeed a great achievement). It’s obvious that parents are interested in their child’s marriage but the second type of people interested in the marriage are relatives, then only the boy/girl’s interest comes into picture.)

Emotions of parents are considered and not of the people who actually getting married in fact they think that they have experience of the world and boy/girl are not mature enough to take such a big decision of life. My question here is if parents think their children are not mature enough to take decision, how come they are putting responsibility of other person on their shoulder?

Ego of parents has more importance than children’s emotions, likes and dislikes.

Now look at what all things are taken into consideration while fixing the marriage?

For girl’s to get marry, parents and MOSTLY relatives check the family background and this is valid to some extend as in most cases only good qualities are talked about and bad qualities are hidden most of the time. Unfortunately this point is considered after looking at the salary of a boy. How much he is earning, whether he has his own flat and car is more important than the nature of that boy. To be successful in career doesn’t mean he/she will be successful in life. To live a happy life one doesn’t need to be smart at work but it requires open heart and understanding mind. It’s true that to live with a peace mind one need to earn adequate money but every person try to earn that for his family. Forget about the dowry subject, I don’t consider it a marriage, that is simply a business of two people’s emotion and life, simply a disgusting thing one can thought of.

For boy to get married, same point of background check which comes awhile comparing 2,3 proposals. When I happened to ask my friends and some other people interested to get married, the type of girl they are looking for? To my surprise the first criteria was “she should be earning or having good education so that she can easily get the job? I asked why, all of them said “ what will she do at home?”. What a diplomatic answer. Directly say that you want a earning partner. Then their answer is fix, you know how difficult these days is to manage with single salary. Hell, you want EMI partner or life partner?

People have changed their views they first calculate the budget and then search the life partner. As per my opinion first search for the life partner and forget about the budget of life. Person in 1 BHK can be thousand times happy than the person in the independent bungalow if you have chosen a proper partner. I am not giving PRAVACHAN this is fact of life. Think on it you will agree with me at least on this point. “No Man you should be practical” a common dialog. What the hell practical. If you are not caring your emotions what all need to do with that luxurious life and your status in society. (Here society means a bunch of 20,30 flats not a literal meaning of the word “society” in big term. Why? Tell me how many people know you in this city? Hardly people from your apartment(Society)).

What society will say? what the hell, you get married for society or self.

So to summarize, ladakeke ya ladakike DIL ki ghanti baje na baje…relatives aur parents to unake life ki ghanti baja ke hi rakhate hai J

I am not against arrange marriage if parents care more of their child’s emotion than their status/ego in the society.

Will write on Love and Love-cum-arrange(new trend in the marriage system J), as and when get some time.


Don’t try to conclude that this has anything to do with my personal life J It’s only a study topic for me as others like study of Bohr’s

model,study of socrete’s philosophy or the internals of Dalvik virtual machine J